Fighting Rules

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting it to come out different."
-Benjamin Franklin

"You cant expect to do the same things over and over again and expect different results."
-My Dad

Yep. Sounds about right. My whole life I have been driven to exceed. To be better. But in some areas of my life, I have spent too much time doing the same things and expecting the outcome to be what I want it to be.

Don't get me wrong. I am successful. I am happy- 80% of the time. But. I still feel insane.

I need to remember the words of Ben Franklin, and my dad, as I continue to better myself. Ben Franklin had his shit together. Electricity. Hello. And my dad. Well he hasn't done too bad for himself either. I should probably take note.

So, instead of letting Lucy stay up all night, expecting her to be human in the morning. I am going to implement a new rule- everyone goes down at 8pm. Because you know what? Lucy starts school in 2 weeks. Yep. My baby is starting school. And the bus is coming to get her at 7:50 am. And, well, Lucy doesn't do mornings. Period. And you never know. If everyone goes to sleep at a decent hour, I might have the energy for other things???

And, instead of fighting with Hudson over juice boxes, as he chugs down 10 a day. I'm not going to buy juice boxes anymore. Water will not kill my kids.

Instead of fighting with Kane over his chores, I'm going to defer to G. He can deal with it. If Kane gets rats from eating snacks in his messy bedroom, then at least he will have company while he is grounded.

As for me. I am going to continue doing my INSANITY work outs. They are crazy. They give me chest pain. But when I am done each day, I feel better. And I am starting to look better too.

As for G- I love him. He has supported me through some pretty heavy shit. And he continues to each day. I need to keep up on my love dare. For him. For us. Because if I don't, like Ben and my dad say- how can I expect anything to change?

G always says, "If you are happy, then I am happy."

So, instead of walking around crabby because of messy little Schueys, dirty floors, and bad attitudes. I am going to smile. And be thankful for the fact that we have a comfortable life. Healthy (half human) kids. And a strong marriage. I need to show my 80% happiness more than my 20% crazy.

 

Love Dare: Day 13

 

Love Fights Fair

 

If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.

-Mark 3:25

 

Today's Dare

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate if not ready for this, then write down your own personal rules to "FIGHT" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

Okay. Some rules.
1. I promise not to yell (too loud) or swear.
2. I promise to not read into your words, and assume the worst.
3. I promise not to throw things (at your head).
4. I promise to listen to you (without interruption).
5. I promise to (try and) not get defensive.
6. I promise to use kind words.
7. I promise to kiss and make up. Maybe more... wink, wink.
8. I promise to love you.

I think I will get a swear jar. And a throwing jar. I could save up for something real nice.



peace and love,
-A